Happy Valentine's Day: In Which I Offer Advice for Gift-Givers


Thanks, Fashionable Canes.You know just how to make me feel special . . . by stylishly reminding me of my disability. 

(To be fair, Fashionable Canes does indeed have some great canes. I just don't want one for Valentine's Day.)

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